|Wine with dinner
||[Jan. 26th, 2009|12:54 am]
I'm having a discussion with someone on the question of serving alcohol to minors with dinner. |
My position, one based on how I grew up and my observations from friends who grew up similarly, is that there is nothing wrong if a parent serves his or her child a little wine with dinner, assuming that the parent deems it appropriate. As a parent, I certainly wouldn't be ok with other people serving my hypothetical child alcohol until the child was old enough to legally acquire it him/herself, but I take the position that parents can make the decision for themselves. I believe it can be an aid in teaching children responsibility with regard to alcohol; as such, I don't think it necessarily increases the risk of the child seeking alcohol outside the home. Parents should set an example through minimal use (or at least the appearance to their children of minimal use), and the slight permissiveness should be used to soften the desirability of alcohol associated with its socially taboo nature.
Her position is that serving any alcoholic beverage to any person below the age of 18 is wrong. It expresses to the minor that it is ok to break the law, and that the rule of law and respect for authority can be disregarded; additionally, it sends the message that harming one's body is permissible. She believes that introducing children to alcohol in the home increases the risk of the child seeking alcohol outside the home, and that the better method to teach responsibility lies solely in personal example. Parents should set the example that drinking is a potentially dangerous and even fatal activity, and should themselves drink minimally when their children can witness the behavior.
I think I've got a decent variety of people on my friends list, I'd be curious to all of your positions and thoughts on the matter.